Both of the toads take Karate (don't ask me what genre - I don't know - except they say Ke-yah alot).
I totally love Karate. I have met some other mom's that seem to have the same
And most importantly the kids are
Z-Toad loves it. He always gives it 110% and is always telling me how he is going to get his black-belt. He also tells me that he is going to be a cop and he and his wife will be living across the street with their four kids which I will be babysitting while they both work. He is 7.
So the issue revolves around J-Toad. He is 9 going on 40. His maturity level sometimes surpasses Mr. Toad (does that surprise anyone?). He also does well with Karate WHEN he puts in the effort. Usually he stands out there and does everything half-assed. If he catches the evil eye from me he will do better but he usually positions himself in a corner so that I can't easily see him.
It has been 8 months and he wants to quit. I let the owners know and the woman actually let me out of my year contract and agreed to reduce my rate to just Z-Toad. The male owner who I really like and I believe that he does have the kids best interest at heart sat down to chat with me. In a nutshell, he pegged both my kids like he had been raising them himself. They are completely different.
Z-Toad leads with his emotions. All I need to do is tell him how happy he makes me or how proud I am of him and all is right in his little world. J-Toad could care less what I or anyone else thinks. He wants to do what he wants and that is that. That sounds harsh. He is basically a good kid but is in his own world where everything is how he wants it. For example: He road his bike ONCE and hasn't been on again because "I know how to do it. Why do you want me to do it again?" Why does he have to constantly right stories in his journal at school - he knows all his letters. And on and on it goes.
The Karate owner thinks J-Toad is manipulating me which I would hate to admit cause I am certainly smarter than a 9 year old but perhaps that is true. J-Toad knows that I hate to waste money so by making half-hearted attempts at Karate he knows I will get frustrated and pull him out. And thus we have a pattern. I should also point out that J-Toad is the smallest one in his class. He is on the 1% line for his height and weight. He is ridiculously smart and sarcastic. For pure survival he should stay in Karate.
On the other hand my cynical business side is wondering if the Karate owner is playing me - after all it is in his interest for me to keep both kids doing Karate. And Karate isn't for everyone. If your child was taking soccer and hated it would you put them back in it the following season?
What do you all think?